Marriage: Why Our Survival Depends On It

And we should keep it that way!

With all the news of Rob Bell and Hilary Clinton supporting so-called “gay marriage”, a possible Supreme Court battle on marriage, and all of the rhetoric floating around out there, the historical purpose of the institution of marriage has been lost. Unfortunately, the truth does not always fit into a cute little slogan, a 5 minute you-tube video, or a 60-second sound clip. Sometimes the truth takes time, and effort. Please, take a little of both and educate yourself.

Marriage is the very foundation upon which civilization is built. Strong marriages insure a strong posterity. Without marriage there would be no stability for children and, therefore, no stability for our entire civilization. In fact, marriage is the oldest and most basic of the three foundational institutions of Western civilization (the other two being government and the church), and the most basic of the three because without children there would be no need for a government or a church. Furthermore, a church cannot fill the parental role, and regardless of what Marx may have believed, the government cannot parent like a biological mother and a father.

Society Rewards Marriage Because Marriage Rewards Society

There are demonstrable benefits for a civilization that come from having strong families. Marriage sort of acts as a security system for a society. When marriages and families are strong, the society is strong. When they are weak, the society will become sick. In other words, as goes the family, so goes the nation.


  • Lengthens life spans of men and women

  • Civilizes men and focuses them on productive pursuits

  • Protects women, who often give up or postpone their careers to have children, from being abandoned and harmed economically by uncommitted men

  • Protects mothers from violent crime. Single mothers are twice as likely to suffer violent crime as married mothers

  • Lowers welfare costs

  • Encourages an adequate replacement birthrate for the sustainability of society

Children that are raised in homes with a biological mother and father are:

These benefits of marriage are not new and not unique to our society. Marriage has been the bedrock of human social structure since the dawn of humanity. British anthropologist J.D. Unwin wrote in his book Sex and Cultureabout his study of 86 civilized and uncivilized cultures spanning 5000 years. He discovered that those civilizations that were most prosperous coincided with the maintaining of a strong marriage ethic. Those that divorced their society from this ethic, including the Roman, Babylonian, and Sumerian empires, experienced a downfall soon after embracing a licentious attitude toward their sexual behaviors. A society will not long endure once those that are supposed to be the responsible ones abandon their children (or just abort them) as well as one another in favor of sexual pleasure outside of natural marriage. And that is exactly what we are seeing in this society.

No-fault divorce was just the beginning of the undermining of this cornerstone of society. Think back to the times before no-fault divorce, or, if you are not that old, watch an old family sitcom like Leave it to Beaver, The Andy Griffith Show, or Father Knows Best. From a societal standpoint, are we better off now than we were then? I would argue that the answer is no. Now, the courts want to take us down the slippery slope and force on us so-called gay “marriage”, and polygamy is working its way through that very same court system, using the same logic.

Imagine a society where there are fewer and fewer stable families and individuals are forced to fend for themselves. Without the natural family structure – which provides people with their most basic needs – social chaos will breakout.

Marriage: Do It For The Kids!

The necessity of marriage is especially evident when one considers that men and women can do just about everything alone (eat, sleep, breath, think, move, etc…) without anyone else. The one exception is procreation. It seems obvious, but as George Orwell stated, “we have now sunk to a depth at which the restatement of the obvious is the first duty of intelligent men,” thus I must state the fact that without the procreative union of a man and a woman no one would exist, including homosexuals. Whether you  believe that we were created or that we evolved, it is clear to see that the male and female of the human species were intended to procreate together and thus parent together. Procreation alone ought to prove the importance of marriage.

Yes, I do realize that not all heterosexual marriages produce children. But those are the exceptions. We are not talking about the exceptions of marriage, we are talking about the institution of marriage. And while a small percentage of marriages do not produce children, the ones that do form the foundation of the future of our civilization. If there is any institution designed for the good of children and society, it is natural marriage. In other words, do it for the kids! . . . In more ways than one.

Who’s Your Daddy?

One problem with same-sex marriage is that the children are denied either a mother or a father. And while it is possible for children to succeed in homes without their biological moms and dads, that is the exception and not the rule.

Let’s rephrase the findings listed above so we can better understand the impact of families without a father.

First, children from fatherless homes are:

  • Seven times more likely to live in poverty

  • More than twice as likely to commit crime

  • More than twice as likely to become pregnant out of wedlock

  • Worse off academically and socially

  • Worse off physically and emotionally when they reach adulthood

  • Six times more likely to commit suicide

Second, children from fatherless homes account for:

  • 60% of America’s rapists

  • 63% of America’s youth suicide

  • 70% of America’s long-term prison inmates

  • 70% of America’s reform school attendees

  • 71% of America’s teen pregnancies

  • 71% of America’s high school dropouts

  • 72% of America’s adolescent murderers

  • 85% of America’s youth prisoners

  • 85% of America’s youth with behavioral disorders

  • 90% of America’s runaways (Source)

Are You My Mother?

When I was a kid my grandparents had this book by P. D. Eastman titled Are You My Mother?. It was about this newly hatched bird whose mother leaves the nest just before he hatches. Not knowing where his mother is he sets off to find her. He comes across a kitten, a hen, a dog, and a cow, asking each if they are his mother. They all reply, “No.” Then he comes across a car, a boat and a plane. Obviously, they are not his mother. Finally, he climbs into the bucket of an excavator. As the machine lets out a loud “SNORT” the baby bird says, “You are not my mother! You are a SNORT!” The excavator then picks up the bird and drops him back into his nest just as his mother is returning home. This classic story illustrates as important a fact as the statistics listed above. Children need a dad and a mom, and nothing can replace the real thing.

Gay activists argue that parents are interchangeable and that gender does not matter. Two men can do just as good of a job rearing a child as a mom and a dad because the differences in the gender roles don’t matter. (By the way, they make these claims based on zero reliable evidence.)

This raises a very important question: Why are men and women interchangeable as parents but not as sex partners? If there is no difference between men and women, why not just marry someone of the opposite sex?

The glaring inconsistency is an obvious logical suicide. When it is about personal gratification and desire, there is a difference in the genders. But when it comes to the more important issue of raising children, gay activists say there is no difference. You can see how children are being sacrificed upon the alter of sexual perversion. As Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse states, “[Homosexual] adults are entitled to have what they want. Children have to take what we give them.”

Anyone that denies what is best for children in order to get what they want is usually referred to as an irresponsible parent, and usually the courts take those children away. In this two-and-two-make-five society in which we live, the courts are not only giving children to those kinds of people, but in some cases are denying Christian parents the ability to adopt if they teach that a homosexual lifestyle is wrong. The world is indeed up-side down. Marriage is about more than just coupling and sex . . . any child knows that. It is about the perpetuation of our society.

Our nation is on the brink of collapse. And it’s not the economy, stupid. It’s the morality, stupid. The best way to destroy anything is to weaken the foundation. Liberals have done a great job of attacking that foundation by eroding the family unit. If we want to reclaim and restore America and make her great again, we should start by fighting for marriage and the family instead of buying into the smears and misinformation.


16 thoughts on “Marriage: Why Our Survival Depends On It

    1. I never stated that letting gay people get married would prevent me from getting married. Perhaps you should go back and read it again, because I think you missed the entire point.

      1. Then why prevent gays from getting married? All of these arguments seem to be that stopping marriage is bad.

        Okay. Stopping marriage is bad. How will gay marriage stop marriage from happening? If it won’t…then there’s no connection to gay marriage.

      2. My point is not that gay marriage will effect my marriage. My point is that gay marriage will effect the very foundation of society.

        If the government sections and therefore endorses gay marriage it would be approving a destructive behavior. The state ought not approve of destructive behavior. Doing so would be detrimental to our society, as I laid out. If you disagree with any of my premises, feel free to point out where I am wrong.nd therefore endorses gay marriage it would be approving a destructive behavior. The state ought not approve of destructive behavior. Doing so would be detrimental to our society, as I laid out. If you disagree with any of my premises, feel free to point out where I am wrong.

      3. “The state ought not approve of destructive behavior.”

        Your assumption is that, by allowing gay marriage, the government will make people gay who otherwise wouldn’t be?

      4. People will be gay whether or not the government approves. The only thing that will change is that gay people can get married. Your argument seems to hinge on the fact that allowing gay marriage will make more gay people, or not allowing gay marriage will make less.

      5. I drew that conclusion from your words.

        You seem to be of the opinion that homosexuality is bad.

        If it is bad, will allowing homosexuals to get married make it worse?

        If it doesn’t make it worse, I don’t see any reason to be against gay marriage.

        If it does make it worse, I want to know: how?

      6. That’s interesting, because I didn’t say anything even remotely close to that. Perhaps you should take a look at my words in the article again.

        I will even help you out with a brief summary. My entire argument focuses on children and them being raised with a biological mother and a biological father, which is proven to be the best environment in which to do so. Gay marriage necessarily robs children from having either their biological mother or their biological father. The government should not promote that.

        If you want to talk about what I actually said, I welcome the conversation. Otherwise, I have no reason to continue to expose your straw men.

      7. “which is proven to be the best environment in which to do so.”

        No. Actually, it’s been proven that the best environment is two supportive parents. The genders of the parents has been shown to make no difference.

        “Gay marriage necessarily robs children from having either their biological mother or their biological father.”

        You do not have the automatic right to be raised by your biological parents. Nor would many people want to be, given specific circumstances.

  1. Andy, I read your article. I don’t know you, but it seems somewhat nefarious to use statistics on Children of Divorce and Separation (the source of most of your supporting information) in your argument against Gay Marriage.

    1. Most of my supporting information comes from a report by the Heritage Foundation about “The Positive Effects of Marriage”. The entire premise of the report is that children that are raised with both biological parents have a positive impact on society. Gay marriage, like divorce and separation separations, would necessarily rob children of either a biological mother or father. Nothing nefarious about it. Just following the logical conclusion.

      1. Except that if a gay couple adopts a baby, that baby will fare just as well as a baby adopted by a straight couple.

        Which, by all reports, is equivalent to every other child raised in a two-parent household.

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